Hurdles are tall! When I was in college, some hurdles were set up on the track and I decided to give them a try…just for fun. It didn’t look that hard.
I ran. As I closed in on the first hurdle, I was surprised by how high it was all of a sudden. Had it grown? I had watched hurdlers run, and they made it look easy.
Awkward. That’s the only word that could describe my hurdle attempt that day. After knocking over the second hurdle, I gave up and never tried again. Hurdles were high and hard. Ick!
I read a book that has nothing to do with hurdles (but I’ll tie it in at the end). T. Harv Eker’s book, Secrets of the Millionaire Mind: Mastering the Inner Game of Wealth, is about overcoming poor programming from your youth so that you can succeed now financially.
What I particularly liked about this read was that I could take the concepts and use them for other things besides money (spiritual growth, individual development, leadership, social success), and the principles translated over to those areas.
Eker starts out his book with this quote: “If you want to change the fruits, you will first have to change the roots.”
We all have financial concepts in our mind from our past that stay with us and affect our ‘wealth blueprint.’ Roots create fruit. If we’ve been brought up to think rich people are greedy jerks that look down on everyone else, chances are that we will act in such a way as an adult so that we never become wealthy. Weird, huh? Why would we want to grow up to be what we hate?
What I came away thinking after I read this book is that many of us (ME) have reservations and prejudices against the rich. It may be due to jealousy. We may honestly feel they’re prideful and look down on others. But I’m the one being prideful and looking down on them when I have those thoughts.
Eker says that there is no such thing as a really rich victim. Rich people believe “I create my life.” Poor people believe “Life happens to me,” and blame, justify and complain due to that belief. If you find yourself blaming others for your sorry life…ask yourself some questions. What do you want? Do you want to be rich? Famous? A mover and shaker of people?
Then do it.
The #1 reason most people don’t get what they want is that they don’t know what they want.
No matter where you are in life—a student, young parent, struggling in a career, retiree—you should have goals. If you’re moving toward some objective, you are growing (even if you don’t end up accomplishing that goal). But if you’re waiting to win the lottery or have money suddenly dropped in your lap, you’re going to be mighty unhappy.
Your life is not just about you…it is about contributing to others. It’s about living true to your mission and reason for being on earth…. It’s about adding your piece of puzzle to the world. Most people are so stuck in their egos that everything revolves around me, me, me.
But if you want to be rich in the truest sense of the word, it can’t only be about you. It has to include adding value to other peoples’ lives. We came to earth with natural talents, thing we’re just naturally good at…. Research shows that happiest people are those who use their natural talents to the utmost. Part of your mission in life must be to share your gifts and value with as many people as possible. That means being willing to play big. –T. Harv Eker
What if I had kept trying to do those hurdles back in college? Would I have gotten better?
That was my first time. I gave up too fast because it was hard and those hurdles were tall. Eker says that “The secret to success is not to try to avoid or get rid or shrink from your problems; the secret is to grow yourself so that you are bigger than any problem.”
If I had kept trying, those hurdles would have gotten easier. They might not have seemed so tall and daunting had I practiced and trained more. I might not have ever become an NCAA track star, but I would have become better.
It’s easy to shy away from hard things in life. That’s the easy road. The higher road is the one that leads to growth. It is the road called “DO.”
What this book taught me was that I shouldn’t shrink from obstacles or hurdles anymore. I need to grow myself so that my hurdles shrink and become easier to cross. That’s when success happens…when you overcome those hurdles that seem daunting and run further down the road called DO in life.
PS…anyone else out there every tried real hurdles? Just wondering. I’ve tried to get all my kids to do hurdling in track, and they roll their eyes at me and point out all the injuries hurdlers get.